私は、乙女座だからこそ、変な風に完璧主義者でした。また、「こうあるべきだ」という理想が強い父親から育ったため、 「私は、こうじゃないといけない」 「これができないなら、私はだめだ」 と勝手に思い込んでしまい、自分を追い込み辛かった時が長かったです。 しかし、完璧は存在しない。完璧に理想通りに物事が進まないのは当たり前。そんな中に、自分を追い込んでも、自虐するのだけ。何のいいことも起きない。 だからこそ、もっと楽しもう!どうせ同じ道を進むのであれば、「どうすれば楽しみながら過ごせるか?」とアプローチを変えることで、 長続きはする 楽しむことで、嫌なことへ焦点を置いていないから、学びが増え、学びの吸収力も上がり、早く物事を終わらせることができる だから、完璧を求めている自分がいたら、楽しみへ焦点を当てようね! また、完璧をなぜ求めるかを自問しよう! Since, I am a virgo, I used to be weirdly perfectionist. Moreover, since my father had specific expectation, I always felt I was not enough because I was not perfect. As you are consciously aware, there is no perfection in the world and things obviously…

About affirmations

Many people have GREAT doubt when doing affirmation. One person told me, “I have tried before. It never worked”  I asked him how many times did he practiced. He shyly responded, “3 times”    👉🏽AFFIRMATION can only work if it is CONSISTENT with emotional intensity. 👉🏽This is because what affirmation is doing is rewiring your neural pathway. ↓↓↓Read more about…

How to deal with obstacle?

    Let’s really be honest here because only in honesty, can we make room for improvement. How do you deal with the obstacle? Bluntly speaking, many people make the mistake of taking the self-destructive or pointless approach. The more you lean into the  2 approaches, it makes you feel worse more and more. Therefore,…

Read this when you are stressed (1 min read)

When you have tough times esp. at work, you tend to … get discouraged feel more worse pathetic make more mistakes start having self-destructive un-kind thoughts like “Why can’t I do this?” / “What is wrong with me”  start having pointless arguments like “What is wrong with them?”    The above mindset is like a…

Idea (1 min read)

Essentially, you have 2 options every second. If you FOCUS on making excuses / blaming others, you will experience more pain;  you will feel stagnant,stuck, shame, more anger, more sense of loss and self-loathe   If you FOCUS on how you can take action to create a better solution, you will obviously have different result….